My choir section leader at my church made me feel bad just because me and my best friend are having a Non Mothers Day Celebration.We are celebrating not getting pregnant out of wedlock.
I feel left out on Mothers Day because I’m 27 with no children
I just met my wonderful boyfriend and we both want children but we want to wait until marriage.Nothing wrong with that,
My big play sister always sends me a Non Mothers Day card so that I wont feel so bad on Mothers Day.I celebrate Mothers Day with my mom, but Im 27 with no children, so yes I feel very left out because I still have no children to look up to me, love me, or give me cute presents.I still have no children to say I love you mommy.
My boyfriend and I don’t want any kids until we walk down the aisle.
So me and my friend are celebrating Non Mothers Day.We made it another year being single with no children.
My choir section leader said that celebrating being single without getting pregnant is nothing to celebrate and said taking a chance with sex and not getting pregnant is nothing to celebrate,
In the first place I just now lost my virginity.I have been celebrating Non Mothers Day since I was in my teens.I am 27 and I just now lost my virginity.Im on the pill and I don’t see anything wrong with celebrating my not being a mommy until the time is right
At least I still have my freedom and I can just get up and go and at least Im finishing college.
I’m not a mom yet and I feel left out on Mothers Day. I celebrate Mothers Day with my mom, but I’m 27 years old and I still have no children, so it still gets lonely.
Whats with celebrating not being a mom until you’re ready?
I made it another year without becoming a mom out of wedlock or a mom too soon.And as far as my choir section leader saying stuff like taking a chance on sex and not getting pregnant is nothing to celebrate
Who is she to judge?
And Im 27 just now losing my virginity and I use protection and the pill,Nothing wrong with that.
Not everyone has children so not everyone can celebrate Mothers Day but not having a child bfore you’re ready is something to celebrate.
She really hurt my feelings. She can say some really hurtful things.
To Get R Done Girl first of all I’m not mocking any holiday.
NOT EVERYONE IS A MOM AND NOT EVERYONE IS A DAD AND AS FAR AS MEN CELEBRATING NOT HAVING CHILDREN I KNOW QUITE A FEW MEN WHO DO IN FACT CELEBRATE THAT BECAUSE THEY DON’T WANT TO BE FATHERS BEFORE THEY ARE READY.
WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE?
AT LEAST IM PLANNING MY PREGNANCIES.I DON’T WANT KIDS UNTIL IM READY AND I DON’T HAVE CHILDREN AT THE MOMENT SO YES I CELEBRATE NON MOTHERS DAY UNTIL THE DAY COMES THAT ME AND MY BOYFRIEND WALK DOWN THE AISLE AND HAVE CHILDREN. NO ONE IS MOCKING ANYTHING!
KEEP SMALL MINDED OPINIONS LIKE THIS TO YOURSELF! WHO DIED AND MADE YOU GOD?
I am writing based on what i interpret from your words ( which could be completely wrong by the way).
""""My big play sister always sends me a Non Mothers Day card so that I wont feel so bad on Mothers Day.I celebrate Mothers Day with my mom, but Im 27 with no children, so yes I feel very left out because I still have no children to look up to me, love me, or give me cute presents.I still have no children to say I love you mommy."""""""
It isn’t because you do not have a child why you feel left out, its way more than that. I think on some level you feel disconnected from everyone. Somehow you do not feel that you fit in where you are and is trying desperately to be.You think that a child will fill this gap and in a way ground you more. Deep inside you feel that having a child would mean that you will have someone who will love you unconditionally pass all that you are ( your past, present, future, mistakes, pains, happiness, success, failures). You are overly concerned about what others think of you. Why??
You lash out at everyone because you feel that they only see the negative things about you and that makes you feel even more disconnected. You want them to trust you, to trust your motive and intents even when your words don’t bring across the meaning that you intended.They cant seem to see beyond your words and into your heart.
I don’t think many people will be able to see you for who you are until they start looking with a pure heart. Not many people can do this either because of so many bad experiences that everyone has to go through in life. It causes us to become distrustful of others and i a way protective of ourselves. Do not be angry when people fail to see what you intended them to… we all have our way of looking at things and sometimes we don’t necessarily look at them in the best way.
””””””My choir section leader said that celebrating being single without getting pregnant is nothing to celebrate and said taking a chance with sex and not getting pregnant is nothing to celebrate,”””””””’
What your choir section leader meant to say is that as a Christian you should not be having sex until you are married.The Bible clearly does not agree with premarital sex.
I wish that you could only understand how much the Lord loves you. He adores you so much that HE GAVE HIS SON that you might live. I know what it feels like to long for someone to love you unconditionally; to love you pass all your flaws and everything that you could ever do wrong. I know that is the love and acceptance that you seek. Someone who can truly love you without fear, without holding back. Sister, that’s how God feels about you. There are no strings attached to this love. I know because i have allowed myself to fall deeply in love with God and He has wrapped his arms around me so tightly that i am so totally consumed by His love.
Again to answer your question, there is nothing wrong with celebrating non mothers day. It is totally your choice. However if you are a Christian and is celebrating the fact that you are having premarital sex and is not pregnant, then there is nothing there to celebrate since if you do, it would certainly point to the fact that you are not yet saved.
Romans 12
1I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
2And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Love and blessings
July 5th, 2009 at 7:17 pm
First, you can celebrate anything you want. It’s a free country. One life rule: whenever you give someone a chance to criticize you, they will!!
Just celebrate, don’t tell other people about it because it is rather unusual and 99.9% of people won’t understand it or agree with your premise. But you don’t need them to understand, agree, or anything. Just don’t give them the opportunity to hurt you.
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July 5th, 2009 at 7:40 pm
I wouldn’t take your choir section leader’s comment to heart. She simply has an opinion, and it’s her right. You have your opinions, and that’s your right.
It’s great that you’re very serious about the man you’re sleeping with, and it’s not a random "hook-up." This definitely makes things a lot more intimate and special.
I do not see a problem with you celebrating Non-Mother’s Day. It’s kind of funny. I don’t think, though, that you should judge those people who have had children out of wedlock because every situation is different. It’s okay to be proud of the fact that you have not conceived children before marriage, but it’s a little cruel to flaunt it to an irrational extent. Other than that, I don’t see a problem.
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July 5th, 2009 at 8:05 pm
Can I ask why you tell her your personal business? She’s not your friend or doctor, right? Well, then your sexual history, and the holidays you celebrate is none of her business.
If she continues to berate you, look her straight in the face and tell her that she needs to get out of the dark ages and stop believing that it is a woman’s duty to marry young and have children she is unable to care for on her own after her husband bails. Remind her that over half the marriages in the U.S. end in divorce, and you plan to make sure that, should that happen, your future children will be adequately provided for.
I commend you for waiting until you were ready, and for taking precautions to prevent children until you are ready. A lot of young women your age don’t. You’re obviously very intelligent, and my guess is that it bugs her that you’re doing things in life (such as college) that she didn’t because she believed that her life was to serve no other purpose than to be a wife and mother.
I think your holiday idea is cute. I’m a mom, but I really don’t care for Mother’s Day to be honest with you. I don’t need plants that die, cards and pictures or crafts that clutter up an already too small house. I just need my daughter.
If she wants to berate you for being intelligent and honest enough with yourself to know that you’re not ready for kids right now, that’s her problem. She’d have REALLY hated me…my friends used to send me Mother’s Day e-cards before my daughter was born…"signed" from my kitties and dogs! lol
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July 5th, 2009 at 8:38 pm
First of all Non-Mothers day sounds like fun!!! and another thing that you mentioned in your last statement……. "small minded opinions" you are very much aware that what this lady told you is a "small minded opinion" so why are you sweating it?
Second, congratulations on being 27 and with no children. It is really nice to hear a kid say "i love you mom" but that comes with a lifetime of work and stress, not to mention sleepless nights, dirty diapers, spit-up on your clothing, ect, ect.
Third, enjoy your life, it sound like this lady said this stupid comment to bring you down because she’s probably hating on you, so you should feel sorry for her instead of angy. Think about it, "small minded comments can only come from small minded people". you can be weak and let this make you feel bad, or you can be strong and laugh it off and feel sorry for her. In the end it’s your choice.
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By the way………. HaPpY nOn-MoThErS dAy!!!
July 5th, 2009 at 9:02 pm
I am writing based on what i interpret from your words ( which could be completely wrong by the way).
""""My big play sister always sends me a Non Mothers Day card so that I wont feel so bad on Mothers Day.I celebrate Mothers Day with my mom, but Im 27 with no children, so yes I feel very left out because I still have no children to look up to me, love me, or give me cute presents.I still have no children to say I love you mommy."""""""
It isn’t because you do not have a child why you feel left out, its way more than that. I think on some level you feel disconnected from everyone. Somehow you do not feel that you fit in where you are and is trying desperately to be.You think that a child will fill this gap and in a way ground you more. Deep inside you feel that having a child would mean that you will have someone who will love you unconditionally pass all that you are ( your past, present, future, mistakes, pains, happiness, success, failures). You are overly concerned about what others think of you. Why??
You lash out at everyone because you feel that they only see the negative things about you and that makes you feel even more disconnected. You want them to trust you, to trust your motive and intents even when your words don’t bring across the meaning that you intended.They cant seem to see beyond your words and into your heart.
I don’t think many people will be able to see you for who you are until they start looking with a pure heart. Not many people can do this either because of so many bad experiences that everyone has to go through in life. It causes us to become distrustful of others and i a way protective of ourselves. Do not be angry when people fail to see what you intended them to… we all have our way of looking at things and sometimes we don’t necessarily look at them in the best way.
””””””My choir section leader said that celebrating being single without getting pregnant is nothing to celebrate and said taking a chance with sex and not getting pregnant is nothing to celebrate,”””””””’
What your choir section leader meant to say is that as a Christian you should not be having sex until you are married.The Bible clearly does not agree with premarital sex.
I wish that you could only understand how much the Lord loves you. He adores you so much that HE GAVE HIS SON that you might live. I know what it feels like to long for someone to love you unconditionally; to love you pass all your flaws and everything that you could ever do wrong. I know that is the love and acceptance that you seek. Someone who can truly love you without fear, without holding back. Sister, that’s how God feels about you. There are no strings attached to this love. I know because i have allowed myself to fall deeply in love with God and He has wrapped his arms around me so tightly that i am so totally consumed by His love.
Again to answer your question, there is nothing wrong with celebrating non mothers day. It is totally your choice. However if you are a Christian and is celebrating the fact that you are having premarital sex and is not pregnant, then there is nothing there to celebrate since if you do, it would certainly point to the fact that you are not yet saved.
Romans 12
1I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
2And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Love and blessings
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July 5th, 2009 at 9:20 pm
First of all people who think you should have children or it is expected are completly wrong!.
If you are a Christian it is probably best not to have sex until marriage (according to the bible)
but that is betweeen you and God.
I dont know what faith you are and I am not here to judge.
Anyways,,
I am 40
with NO KIDS Married and I have 2 furry kids.
Yes I can say as a bible beleiving Christian I go against the grain.
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July 5th, 2009 at 9:55 pm
I find your reasoning conflicting. Now I’m not bashing what you do or don’t celebrate but here are the facts. You celebrate Non Mothers Day because you are 27 and have no kids. But you wish you had kids to call you mommy and look up to you. This is conflicting and confusing. I don’t feel that adding your NON to Mother’s day means much. You celebrated mother’s day with your own mother but personally you celebrate non mothers day. I just find the whole thing, stupid, confusing and annoying. Before I became a mother myself, I celebrated Mother’s day in respect to my own mother - period! What you did is just make up something because you really wish you were able to celebrate mothers day as a mother.
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July 5th, 2009 at 10:25 pm
Usually children are good but this is your choice , no one on the world can say that you must have children . Do what you want and come out from the stress . believe me stress is danger .
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