This past Mother Days I came home from church to find a beautiful set of roses from my son and a big hug from my daugther.
My husband did not wish me a happy mothers day and/or did he acknowledge it. I am feeling hurt and angry, considering what I do ever day for my family.
Am I feeling selfish?
I noticed you said "I came home from church" Does that mean that he does not go to church with you??
If that is the case, it is obvious you 2 aren't on the same page. I'm not saying that to be ugly, my point is maybe he didn't realize it would hurt you so bad. If he doesn't go to church with you every week and feels fine with that then maybe he didn't think it is that important,
You should tell him how you feel, he may not even realize the impact of his actions. I think it is time for him to start realizing and see all you do for him & your children!!!
March 24th, 2009 at 5:48 pm
let him know how u feel but when father day come up do not do any thing
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March 24th, 2009 at 6:23 pm
Are you from Alabama? Is your husband your son, too?
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March 24th, 2009 at 6:38 pm
you maybe a mother, but not his mother. Plus remember father's day is right around the corner, so I say what is good for 1 is good for the other. Treat him the same way.
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March 24th, 2009 at 7:14 pm
I dont think so, I just went throught the same thing…My kids didn't even tell me anything until it was almost there bedtime…so I know how you feel.. I dont think that men realize how important these little things are to us. Sorry…hope he gets out of his mood
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March 24th, 2009 at 7:48 pm
Despite what you think, you are not his mother.
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March 24th, 2009 at 8:25 pm
Yes you are being selfish.
I called MY mother on Mother's Day.
My sons bought flowers for their mother.
It was NOT mother of my children day.
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March 24th, 2009 at 8:39 pm
ok not everyone celebrates holidays but dont take it to the heart why be congradulated only on one day for something you do all year around….p.s. dont wish him a happy fathers day
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March 24th, 2009 at 9:17 pm
not you are not being selfish, that is not very nice!
you should say something to him, you are the mother if his children he should acknowledge it!
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March 24th, 2009 at 9:48 pm
Do you wish him happy birthday on your birthday? If you are his wife you are probably not his mother, unless you live in Arkansas….just kidding.
If your kids are old enough to buy you flowers for mothers day then Mothers Day is for them to show you how they feel. If your kids were young it would be up to him to get you something, from them.
He owes you something on your Birthday, Christmas and Anniversary.
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March 24th, 2009 at 10:32 pm
guys forget stuff, they arent too good with dates, i'd remind him then if he forgot again i would give him a hard time, id be pissed, yea
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March 24th, 2009 at 10:54 pm
No, you aren't being selfish. But it's possible that there isn't any malice behind his reason for not saying it. He may think that the kids are supposed to say it to you, not him.
For Father's Day, don't wish him a Happy Father's Day, and see how he reacts. Depending on how he reacts, it will open up the conversation about wishing each other a happy day.
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March 24th, 2009 at 11:43 pm
No you are not feeling selfish. You are the mother of HIS children and he should have recognized that.
I have been married for 27 years (today is our ann.) he would not wish me a Happy Mother's day, he would buy a card for our son. Even now that our son is 25 years old and bought me a book, my husband still had to buy a card for "Mother" and let our son sign it.
My husband did say "Happy Mother's Day" only because our son was there.
Selfish, no you are not being selfish to many men think Mother's day means only for "their mother" it means more than that.
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March 25th, 2009 at 12:27 am
Dont feel bad. Yes, Im sure you clean up after him like a baby but technically you are not his mother. Just remember to forget about Father's Day.
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March 25th, 2009 at 1:06 am
No I do not think you are being selfish at ALl. I have had the same scenario now for 17 years. His reasoning is that I am not his mother. True, but I AM the mother of his children and we all work hard to make to make our children and our families happy. He should say Happy Mother's day to you,if not because he means it, but at least to set a good example to your children, after all, they are the ones who will follow in their parents footsteps!
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March 25th, 2009 at 1:39 am
No, you are not being selfish at all. I was in that postion once in my first marriage. I was crushed beyond words & cryed all that day. My sons were grown, with families of their own, but they sent me beautiful cards & gifts, & they also called me that day. My husband at the time, got me nothing & said nothing. He later told me that he didn't get me anything, because I wasn't his mother. I told him that I was the mother of his children though. He just walked away. I will never forget that incident, even though we are now divorced. Thank God, my fiance is not like my ex. Father's Day is next month & maybe it's his turn to feel as you do. Maybe that's what it'll take.
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March 25th, 2009 at 1:52 am
My husband didn't acknowledge Mother's Day, he didn't acknowledge our anniversary and for Christmas he still hasn't opened his gift because he didn't get me anything. You come home from church and your son and daughter welcomed you and gave you a wonderful day to remember,so, why spoil it. You certainly didn't birth your husband and you don't have a jackass like mine so what's the beef?
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March 25th, 2009 at 2:29 am
don't feel bad My didn't wish me a Happys Mother Day either. I felt hurt because he told me I was not his mother. My son that is in the military called me up and wished me a Happy Mothers Day. I am still letting it upset me because 4 days before was our annivarsary and he did not say anything about that. We just got to let it go and just hope the next time he won't do the same thing. But if you don't wish him a Happy Fathers Day he will mention it to you if he is like mine. my husband tells me I feel sorry for myself. Just move on and take care of you
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March 25th, 2009 at 2:43 am
You're not his mother. Get over it. I never get a greeting from hubby on that day, rather thank him for making me a mother. Your kids are the ones who should be acknowledging you, not him.
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March 25th, 2009 at 3:20 am
plan a spa day for you on fathers day…. leave the kids with him and say thanks for the Mothers day present! Without MOTHERS there would be NO FATHERS!
maybe he will get the hint… stay out ALL DAY!
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March 25th, 2009 at 3:39 am
I noticed you said "I came home from church" Does that mean that he does not go to church with you??
If that is the case, it is obvious you 2 aren't on the same page. I'm not saying that to be ugly, my point is maybe he didn't realize it would hurt you so bad. If he doesn't go to church with you every week and feels fine with that then maybe he didn't think it is that important,
You should tell him how you feel, he may not even realize the impact of his actions. I think it is time for him to start realizing and see all you do for him & your children!!!
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